What does “don’t be a victim” mean?

I have seen written time after time “Don’t Be a VICTIM” on women’s self defence websites, on women self defense forums or a response to a partial naked women (commercial) using grappling to fight off intruders.

What does “don’t be a victim” mean? The saying “don’t be a victim” suggest that the victim has or had a choice.

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Being a victim is NEVER a choice.  You could have done everything right and unfortunately bad things do happen.

“Don’t be a victim ” is a subtle way of blaming the victim.  If not being a victim includes, you trained in some sort martial arts, you would have your gi beside your shower, get out, put your gi top on and black belt, no time for pants and fight off home intruders with flying triangles, then ladies, we have been doing things all wrong.

I live, and train in a martial arts world.    Martial arts is multidimensional and teaches you discipline, respect, striking, grappling, awareness, fitness, healthy lifestyle and self defence. I compete in Brazilian jiu-jitsu as a sport but I understand it’s value as self defence.  The ground self-defence is what attracted me to BJJ in the first place.

I get it, you want to know how to defend yourself and also learn to avoid dangerous situation, you want to learn to have a fighting chance.  Self defence for women is amazing and is highly encouraged, it builds confidence and strengths and increase the chance of avoiding or escape dangerous situations.  However, “don’t be a victim”  suggest you did something wrong if you are a victim.

Let’s put the choices and blame on the aggressor and not the victims: “don’t be a aggressor”.

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Michelle Nicolini Seminar

Michelle Nicolini Seminar,

It is not everyday, you get to learn from a world-class women BJJ black belt competitor that is my size.  I had a great opportunity  for me this weekend, an opportunity to participate in a Michelle Nicolini seminar.  Michelle is 7 time world Brazilian Jiu Jitsu World Champion and is one of the most decorated competitors in BJJ in both men and women.

I met some awesome girls at the seminar.  It is great to see the Ontario women BJJ community come together.  I also got to take the seminar with my training partner Jen and our Canadian RCJ Machado affiliate sister, Fariba.

Ottawa Women's BJJ michelle Nicolini Delphie Jen with Fariba

There is only one word to describe the seminar: amazing.  It is not easy being a girl in BJJ, especially a small girl.  Michelle Nicolini is the prime example that size and strength doesn’t matter.  She taught us great techniques and I can’t wait to try them, master them, and share them with all of you.

 

Ottawa BJJ Michelle Nicolini Delphie Jen

Ready for the worlds!

Chris and I arrived in Cali on Tuesday afternoon. The next day we went for a nice easy run in the morning, it felt great to get all the airplane stiffness out of my legs.  It is super important for athletes to keep moving and keep doing exercises the days leading up to a competition.  You have to keep a good balance between relaxing and light exercising.  Your muscles get used to increase blood flow due to training and you don’t want to decrease it to much the week of a competition.  A little light training goes a long way.

We are 16 girls in my division, 7 minute matches, Friday, 9 am pacific time.  All these girls are champions. I will treat my first match like it is the final match, it is the only way to make it to GOLD!!

Ottawa BJJ Women IBJJF Worlds 2014

Getting ready for Worlds

I won the light absolute purple, brown and black belt division and the free trip to the Worlds in California at the Ontario Open International Jiu Jitsu Championship at the beginning of May.

Ottawa BJJ Women Training hard for worlds

Worlds is only one week away and what do you do when Worlds is only one week away?  You try and get as much training in as you can; this is the last boost before heading out to California, there is no slowing down.   I feel good, I feel strong and I feel ready, lets do this.!

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Learn to fight again

Last weekend, I participated in my first purple belt competition.  I have been competing pretty regularly since I got my blue belt in January 2012.  Things did not go as planed.  For the first time since I have dropped to light featherweight division, I had to fight dehydrated.   I will talk more about my weight cut in my next blog.  We were only three girls in my division.  The loser of my first fight would have to fight the third girl to continue into the finals.  I unfortunately lost my first match by 1 advantage and soon after lost my second match by points.

I have always learned much more by my defeats then by my wins.  When I started competing as a blue belt, I lost my first couple of tournaments.  I had to learn to compete as a blue belt.  The Boston open was a great experience; I am now learning to compete as a purple belt.  At every belt level, the competition learning curve gets steeper and steeper.  I have all the tools to be a great purple competitor and I can’t wait to compete in the upcoming tournaments this year and apply all my new strategies.  It’s all part of the learning curve.

We got to lose to learn how to win.

 

Delphie,

Ottaw Team Boston Spring Open

All Girls Grappling!

All Girls Grappling!

It has been a couple of weeks since we have started an unofficial all female BJJ class on Saturdays with Coach Delphie.  This is a great opportunity to train with one of RCJ Machado‘s Top female competitor.   This special class helps bring together girls and women from all ages with the goal  of promoting women’s grappling in a fun and awesome way!.  This is a perfect opportunity to try, learn, teach and get better at jiu jitsu with all different kinds of girls and women. We are so honored to train with all these amazing ladies of K2!

We encourage every girl or women to come join us at K2 Martial Arts, Saturdays at 12:45.  I promise you one thing; you will have fun. Giggles included!

Ottawa BJJ Women Saturday's all Girls Class

Ottawa BJJ Women Saturday’s all Girls Class

Great Super Saturday in Ottawa!

This past weekend, we had an incredible super Saturday at K2 Martial Arts and Fitness.   Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Black Belt, Professor Aksell tough us an amazing Brazilian Jiu Jitsu self defence class.  We learnt different techniques to safely and effectively and protect ourselves when taken to the ground in different attack scenarios.

The ladies are looking so good and strong.  Here are the BJJ ladies learning to kickbutt; Rama, Jen, Daniella, Amy, Delphie and Liz.

Ottawa BJJ Women Feb 22 2014 Super Saturday!

Ottawa BJJ Women Feb 22 2014 Super Saturday!

 

Monday’s Training Tip!

Training tip

When tired or lacking motivation, it is easy to push training to the next day, and then to the next. You will wake up on Friday and you have not had any training at all.  Best way to avoid this, start training on Monday.  You will be more likely not to push training to the next day this way! So get off your butt and get training!

 

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Huge Promotions this weekend!

Huge Promotions this weekend!

The 5 brothers Machado camp in Dallas Texas has been an amazing experience.  This is my second time attending the camp and the brothers did not disappoint.  Three words: Mind was Blown.  I learned so many new techniques and game ideas.  I can spend the next lifetime perfecting all these techniques.

Ottawa BJJ Women 5 Brothers Machado Camp 2013

I was very honoured to be promoted to Purple Belt  during the second day of training at the  camp.  It is not everyday, you get a coral belt promoting you along side the 4 other Machado Brothers.  I am now a Carlos Machado Purple Belt, RCJ for life!

Ottawa BJJ Women Delphie promoted to Purple

The highlight of the camp was seeing three of our instructors being promoted to their BJJ Black Belts.   It takes years and years of hard training and dedication to become a Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Black Belt.

 

Even better, they got the Brazilian Jiu Jitsu from one of the most respected families in the Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu world, the Machado family.  Aksell, Scott and Alain have been  pioneers in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu and Sport MMA in the  Ottawa area.  At K2 Martial Arts and Fitness, we are very lucky to have not one, not two, but three amazing BJJ Black Belts.

 

Ottawa BJJ 3 Machado Black Belts

Counter this!

Counter this

I had such a great time teaching lastnight.  We had a women stacked class and it was awesome.  We focused on grappling strategy and movement more then specific moves.  Every move has a counter and every counter has many more counters.  Don’t fear the counters embrace them and respond to them.  Don’t blame the move if it doesn’t work, try and understand the counters to better set your next counter move.  It is all about the attitude you bring to your grappling games.  Don’t be discouraged if your opponents are good at countering, learn to capitalize their counter into your next attack.

There is always a next move, some time it takes time to figure it out!

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